Roleplay for Couples: Pick Up Your Own Partner and Take Them Home

You're at the bar when someone slides onto the stool beside you. You've never seen them before, except that you've seen them every day for six years, and they left the wet towel on the bed this morning. They ask what you're drinking. You tell them your name's Veronica. By the second drink, they've got their hand on your thigh, and you're telling them things you've never told anyone.

Want to be picked up by a sexy stranger, but quite attached to the one you've got? Handy. Roleplay gives familiar sex a fresh excuse. You don't need acting talent, just a slightly different version of yourselves for a while.

Get picked up by your own partner

Remember making an effort to impress each other, before "early night?" became a question about sleep? Pretending you're strangers brings that attention back. Try it at a bar, or behind a hotel-room door. Arrive separately, dress for a date and enjoy being looked at again. Keep the flirting simple. Ask what caught their eye. Hold their gaze for a bit too long. Then take them home like you've got no idea what they like.

Dress for the fantasy you want

If an outfit's what gets you going, give it some attention. A costume changes the look immediately, and it gives you somewhere to start. The Baci First Class Fantasy is a navy four-piece for nights when your usual undies aren't quite selling it. Please fasten your seatbelt. Choose something you love wearing, and our guide to choosing lingerie can help. You don't need to talk differently just because you're dressed differently.

Be the bossy one for a while

Maybe you don't want a costume. You just want your easygoing partner to stop asking what you feel like, and tell you. Being more forward, demanding attention or being pursued gives you a very different kind of night. Try the hotel guest and the masseuse, the boss and the new hire or simply "you're mine tonight". Keep it between consenting adults playing adults, and agree on what's off limits.

If either of you says stop, the roleplay stops. Otherwise, have some fun being bolder. Our dirty talk guide has ideas if words are what you're after, and use your own voice, unless you've got a very good accent.

You can laugh and still get turned on

A line will come out wrong. Someone will forget your pretend name. You might crack up halfway through a very serious speech. Laugh, kiss and keep going if you're enjoying it. Getting the giggles doesn't mean you've failed at being sexy, and sometimes it's the sexiest part.

If you'd like a nudge, a couples sex game gives you ideas without having to invent a scene. Just remember to go home with the person you came with. It's only cheating if you forget their name.